Research suggests that when people face constant stressors and unwanted changes, they become emotionally upset and experience a variety of negative feelings. With repeated exposure, people experience the chronic overload of emotional stress. Two of the most common distress emotions are guilt and shame. Guilt reminds us of the wrong deeds we’ve done, or perceived that we have done, and shame tells us that we feel embarrassed, remorseful, or even disgraced. All people feel guilt and shame in their life and both emotions can be difficult to cope with.
Guilt, a very common type of emotional distress, can be described as a feeling that involves self-blame and a sense of responsibility for a regretted action or thought. People experience guilty feelings with regret and self-reproach over the belief that they have done, or will do, something wrong. Guilt often results from the perception of falling short of self-expectations or the expectations of others. Like many feelings, guilt is often based on irrational thoughts, not facts. Feelings of guilt are usually associated with self-talk statements such as “I should have,” “If I would have,” and “I could have.”
Shame is a basic part of being human. Shame can be described as a sense of inadequacy about who you are, how you behave and what you value. It is a negative emotion that people experience when they are feeling embarrassed, humiliated or disgraced, especially in the eyes of important people in their life. Shame is based on an image that people internalize of what is expected of them by others, or of themselves, and then the perception that they have fallen short in another’s, or their own, eyes. Shame can be incapacitating and injurious to people’s physical and emotional health, self-esteem and well-being.
Many people spend a great deal of their lives living with guilt and shame. It is important for them to deal with the emotions, thoughts and actions related to both guilt and shame in order to lead a more stress-free, calm and satisfying life. The Coping with Guilt and Shame Workbook provides assessments and self-exploration activities to help participants learn useful skills for coping with various forms of guilt and shame.
Activities are divided into four chapters to help you identify and select assessments easily and quickly:
Chapter 1: Causes of Guilt – This chapter helps participants identify the primary reasons they feel guilty.
Chapter 2: Coping with Guilt –This chapter shows participants effective coping strategies.
Chapter 3: Feelings of Shame –This chapter helps participants explore the intensity of their feelings of shame.
Chapter 4: Effects of Shame –This chapter helps participants identify reasons for and effects of shame.
This workbook is also available in PDF eBook format, making it simple to store on your computer or mobile device, and to access with a PDF viewer. The PDF format also allows you to easily print copies of the activities and worksheets during therapy and counseling sessions.
Coping with Guilt & Shame Card Deck
Need a creative way to start your session? Use the Coping with Guilt & Shame Card Deck. The open-ended questions will break the ice and stimulate conversation. Use them alone or in conjunction with the corresponding page in the book.