Support for partners ending a committed relationship
100 Reproducible Activity Handouts and Educational Materials for Facilitators of Groups & Individuals
Loss of a relationship can mean the end of dreams, routines, stability, emotional and financial security, companionship and family as it existed before the breakup. The resulting trauma is one that impacts on the partners, of course. To varying degrees, children, extended family, friends and colleagues suffer from and grieve the loss as well.
The legal break up of couples through divorce adds significantly to the complexity of working through the emotional and practical issues inherent in the process. Divorce involves legal considerations, binding agreements, and an economic reality that can alter the expectations and security of all family members.
Ending a committed relationship is an extended process with different phases. Educating your clients about this progression is an important part of working through the confusing, challenging and difficult experiences of breaking up.
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do provides activities associated with many of the phases and challenges of ending a committed relationship including:
- Significant relationship distress over time
- Increased distance from each other
- Confrontation(s) with partner and family
- Permanent or temporary separation
- Temporary reconciliation
- Decision to end the relationship permanently
- Selection of legal representation in the case of a divorce
- Negotiations for the financial break up
- Creation of a co-parenting plan
- Day by day co-parenting
- Creating a new, single life
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do is designed to facilitate work by mental health professionals, the clergy and any other professionals who support those considering or those in the midst of ending a committed relationship. The book may also be useful in training facilitators who are new to the field.
By using the activities in Breaking Up Is Hard To Do, participants can learn they are not alone and develop important coping strategies. They can find emotional support and practical suggestions, regardless of where they are in this process.
The workbook’s reproducible activity pages can help stimulate conversation, educate, create awareness of what is happening in the present moment, and what might be happening in the future. The activities provide concrete ways for participants to explore each aspect of ending a committed relationship, as well as the associated legal and financial considerations.
This workbook is also available in PDF eBook format, making it simple to store on your computer or mobile device, and to access with a PDF viewer. The PDF format also allows you to easily print copies of the activities and worksheets during therapy and counseling sessions.
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do Card Deck
An effective way to start a session with your client(s) is to use the Breaking Up Is Hard To Do Card Deck. The open-ended questions will stimulate discussion, break the ice, encourage thinking, and help your clients get in touch with their feelings.
What does one need to consider when making the decision to break up?
Which routine in your life do you wish to continue?
What does being financially independent mean to you?