{"id":614,"date":"2012-05-08T10:45:18","date_gmt":"2012-05-08T15:45:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/wholeperson.com\/wordpress\/?p=614"},"modified":"2023-04-27T09:37:17","modified_gmt":"2023-04-27T15:37:17","slug":"how-we-manage-stress-is-passed-on-in-families","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/blog\/how-we-manage-stress-is-passed-on-in-families","title":{"rendered":"How we manage stress is passed on in families"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>What causes most depression: genetics or experiences?<\/p>\n<p>A hint to the answer comes from the comparisons of depression and schizophrenia rates worldwide. Schizophrenia is found in approximately 1% of the population no matter the culture. Depression varies dramatically culture to culture suggesting it could be contagious.<\/p>\n<p>Consider the following and see if you think depression is spreading:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The World Health Organization says depression is the fourth leading cause of human disability and projects by 2020 it\u2019ll take over second place.<\/li>\n<li>The average onset of depression is the mid-20s. It used to be the mid-30s.<\/li>\n<li>According to clinical psychologist Michael Yapko, long-term studies show depression intensifying one generation to the next, \u201cToday\u2019s parents are the largest depressed group raising the fastest-growing group of depression sufferers.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>We\u2019re four times more depressed than our parents; ten times more so than our grandparents! And this is not due to greater awareness of the illness.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Since depressed people experience far more difficulty socially than do those not depressed, could they be spreading the illness? They have:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>More family and marital arguments;<\/li>\n<li>Less relationship satisfaction;<\/li>\n<li>Greater unhappiness;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Even though you can be genetically vulnerable to depression, the greater cause is learning, mostly from our families, how to manage what goes on inside our heads, including our:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Explanatory style (the meaning we attach to life experiences);<\/li>\n<li>Cognitive style (thinking);<\/li>\n<li>Coping style (how we manage stress);<\/li>\n<li>Problem-solving style;<\/li>\n<li>Relational style;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Families model their thinking, feeling, and relating to others, passing on these patterns to other family members.<\/p>\n<p>Yapko also reports a near-perfect correlation between parents\u2019 explanatory style and their child\u2019s. When your child asks you why something happened, your explanation represents your style of thinking including your belief of what caused it. \u201cWhy can\u2019t I take tennis lessons, Mom?\u201d \u201cIt\u2019s a waste of money since you\u2019ll never be coordinated.\u201d Mom attributes the cause to the child\u2019s clumsiness. And her permanently negative attribution communicates nothing will ever change.<\/p>\n<p>Yapko says these routine interactions happen multiple times daily, imperceptibly shaping the child\u2019s beliefs about himself and his world. They influence how he filters risk-taking, his own potential, whom he blames when things go wrong \u2013 and &#8211; his vulnerability to depression.<\/p>\n<p>Additionally, the child who learns to make global assumptions that life events are beyond his control experiences greater helplessness and hopelessness, ingredients for depression. He\u2019s more likely to perceive himself helpless about his happiness, competence and relationships.<\/p>\n<p>Studies show these interpretation patterns are established early on. In one study, 8 year-old children were asked how they\u2019d respond if shopping with their mother and suddenly finding themselves separated from her. The anxious children produced scary scenarios of never finding their parents and being adopted by strangers. The nonanxious kids said they\u2019d ask the store manager to make a P-A announcement. Free of their peers\u2019 anxiety, they\u2019d think their way through to solving the problem.<\/p>\n<p>Which patterns of perceiving are you teaching your kids?<\/p>\n<p><a title=\"Jackie Ferguson\" href=\"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/store\/jacqueline-ferguson.shtml\">Jacquelyn Ferguson<\/a>, M. S., is an international speaker and a Stress and Wellness Coach. Order her book, <a href=\"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/store\/let-your-body-win.shtml\">Let Your Body Win: Stress Management Plain &amp; Simple<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What causes most depression: genetics or experiences? A hint to the answer comes from the comparisons of depression and schizophrenia rates worldwide. Schizophrenia is found in approximately 1% of the population no matter the culture. Depression varies dramatically culture to culture suggesting it could be contagious. 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