{"id":571,"date":"2012-03-06T10:46:41","date_gmt":"2012-03-06T15:46:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/wholeperson.com\/wordpress\/?p=571"},"modified":"2012-03-06T10:46:41","modified_gmt":"2012-03-06T15:46:41","slug":"teach-your-positive-values-to-help-your-kids-with-their-stress","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/blog\/teach-your-positive-values-to-help-your-kids-with-their-stress","title":{"rendered":"Teach your positive values to help your kids with their stress"},"content":{"rendered":"

<\/strong>The world is full of stress and it\u2019s your responsibility to teach your children how to handle it.<\/p>\n

To help you create a relationship that encourages your children to be open to your advice, create a Stress Safety Net (SSN) for your kids so they can feel safe, secure and loved. In recent weeks, I\u2019ve covered two of the six components of the SSN:<\/p>\n

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  1. Parents as role models;<\/li>\n
  2. Unconditional love;<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Today we\u2019ll consider teaching your children your positive values.<\/p>\n

    A positive value is a belief that produces corresponding behaviors that serve both the practitioner and those on the receiving end of their value-guided behavior. So honesty is good for the honest person and for those around her.<\/p>\n

    Values define you. They serve as a road map in deciding how to handle situations and to live authentically. For example, you\u2019ve taught your daughter to respect others, which includes not harassing anyone. When her friends bully another child your daughter doesn\u2019t participate and may even tell her friends to stop. Conversely, going against a held value would create stress for your daughter.<\/p>\n

    If your kids don\u2019t learn their values from you, from whom will they?<\/p>\n

    To teach your positive values, identify a stressful situation in which your child is involved. Which values would be help him handle the situation? If he\u2019s deciding upon which college to attend would encouraging values like curiosity and open-mindedness be potentially helpful?<\/p>\n

    Next, teach your values through these five steps:<\/p>\n

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    1. Role model the value yourself. The biggest teacher of your values is how you live your life. If you value privacy and get upset when your child walks into your room unannounced, how can he learn this value if you walk into his room unannounced?<\/li>\n
    2. State your value frequently. When appropriate explain your value, whether during a conversation or a TV show. My father often said in response to certain situations, \u201cThere\u2019s nothing worse than a liar.\u201d To this day honesty is one of my strongest values.<\/li>\n
    3. Praise your child when she abides by a value, especially in a tough situation like a friend pressuring her to cheat and she says \u201cno.\u201d Praise her courage (another value) for doing something unpopular.<\/li>\n
    4. Discuss positive and negative consequences of living and not living by certain values. Positive consequences of being curious might include learning more, making life more interesting and fun, having friends who are also curious. On the down side, too much curiosity might find you poking your nose where it doesn\u2019t belong. Identifying both positive and negative consequences of a value helps define which limits might be wise to impose.<\/li>\n
    5. Be honest about your lapses living up to your own values. Like the father who admitted to his kids that he isn\u2019t always completely honest with his own mother when she asks him if he\u2019s busy. Minimize your kids\u2019 cynicism by admitting and explaining your lapses.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Values serve as anchors in this stormy world. Give your children positive ones to navigate successfully.<\/p>\n

      \"\"Jacquelyn Ferguson<\/a>, M. S., is an international speaker and a Stress and Wellness Coach.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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