{"id":496,"date":"2012-01-27T10:27:51","date_gmt":"2012-01-27T15:27:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/wholeperson.com\/wordpress\/?p=496"},"modified":"2012-01-27T10:32:39","modified_gmt":"2012-01-27T15:32:39","slug":"assure-kids-of-your-love-and-support","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/blog\/assure-kids-of-your-love-and-support","title":{"rendered":"Assure kids of your love and support"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/wordpress\/entitlements-don%e2%80%99t-come-without-responsibilities\/jacquelyn-ferguson\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-26\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"26\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/blog\/entitlements-dont-come-without-responsibilities\/jacquelyn-ferguson\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/10\/Jacquelyn-Ferguson.jpg\" data-orig-size=\"123,150\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Jacquelyn Ferguson\" data-image-description=\"&lt;p&gt;Jacquelyn Ferguson&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/10\/Jacquelyn-Ferguson.jpg\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/10\/Jacquelyn-Ferguson.jpg\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" class=\"alignleft  wp-image-26\" title=\"Jacquelyn Ferguson\" src=\"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/10\/Jacquelyn-Ferguson.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"123\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a>To build your children\u2019s Stress Safety Net (SSN) the second [see the first <a href=\"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/wordpress\/parents-role-models-for-childrens-behavior\" target=\"_blank\">here<\/a>] and most important component is your unconditional love: to love them without condition. It\u2019s the thread that holds everything together.<\/p>\n<p>Unconditional love doesn\u2019t require you to always approve of their behavior; you love them in spite of it. You\u2019re there for them, yet won\u2019t necessarily rescue them from foolish behavior. You can apply consequences to their misbehavior, even punish them, and still love them.<\/p>\n<p>Todd stood by his teenage son who repeatedly got into trouble with the law. Each time he received a call from the police, he\u2019d go through the process without rescuing him and assuring him of his love while his son faced the consequences. Eventually, his son got involved in sports and slowly straightened himself out. He even thanked Todd for making him take responsibility for his own behavior while still supporting him.<\/p>\n<p>Unconditional love requires connecting with your kids regularly, lovingly, playfully, and much more often than not, positively. This allows you to survive the normal, uncomfortable connections.<\/p>\n<p>Keep in mind, if your kids don\u2019t connect with you positively, they\u2019ll connect with you negatively; chronic fighting and clinging are examples.<\/p>\n<p>A young single mother of two small children felt drained most of the time working a full-time job and managing the home front all alone. When home she raced around trying to get everything done. Her kids clung to her making it even more difficult. Someone advised her to spend an uninterrupted weekend hour with both of her kids doing fun things together. Much to her amazement, after a couple of weeks, her kids quit clinging to her the rest of the week. They\u2019d been starved for her full attention. Once they received it they felt more secure and loved.<\/p>\n<p>With all kids these moments are to create a trusting relationship. With older kids they\u2019re also to know what\u2019s going on in their lives. Peer pressure can get them into situations they\u2019re unable to handle well. You must keep your eyes open to what your kids, their friends, and other kids in their age group are doing.<\/p>\n<p>Whatever your child\u2019s age, these connections don\u2019t have to be time consuming; most take just minutes. Like reading your child a story after school, watching TV together, sitting together while you both do your \u201chomework,\u201d or daily exchanging hugs and kisses in the car.<\/p>\n<p>All kids, regardless of their ages and resistance, need these special moments. Nurture them.<\/p>\n<p>Unconditional love also requires being nonjudgmental. Judgments feel like you\u2019re putting a condition on your love. As parents you want to help your children do well admonishing, \u201cDon\u2019t be a slob chewing with your mouth open.\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re too lazy about school work.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Instead of labeling your child lazy or a slob, describe the behavior you want to change. \u201cChew with your mouth closed, please,\u201d or \u201cSet aside two hours to do homework when you get home.\u201d Your kids respond better when you deliver it this way.<\/p>\n<p>Next week we\u2019ll cover teaching your children your positive values.<\/p>\n<p>&#8211;<a href=\"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/store\/let-your-body-win.shtml\" target=\"_blank\">Jacquelyn Ferguson<\/a>, M. S., is an international speaker and a Stress and Wellness Coach.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>To build your children\u2019s Stress Safety Net (SSN) the second [see the first here] and most important component is your unconditional love: to love them without condition. It\u2019s the thread that holds everything together. Unconditional love doesn\u2019t require you to always approve of their behavior; you love them in spite of it. 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