{"id":3011,"date":"2018-05-18T09:55:48","date_gmt":"2018-05-18T15:55:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/blog\/?p=3011"},"modified":"2023-04-27T13:34:27","modified_gmt":"2023-04-27T19:34:27","slug":"laugh-humor-stress-management-tool","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wholeperson.com\/blog\/laugh-humor-stress-management-tool","title":{"rendered":"LAUGH! Using Humor as a Stress Management Tool"},"content":{"rendered":"

Laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh…<\/h1>\n

\"Don't<\/a><\/p>\n

Expressions such as, \u201cOh, just laugh it off\u201d or \u201cDon\u2019t be such a sour puss\u201d don\u2019t make me smile. They make me more annoyed than I was before someone tried to lighten my load. Furthermore, I often snap back with something pithy such as, \u201cGreat! What other trite expression can you offer?\u201d Not helpful to anyone. Leigh Anne Jasheway in Don\u2019t Get Mad Get Funny<\/em><\/a> offers a path to find healthy laughter that actually works.\u00a0 The following is excerpted from her book.<\/p>\n

Finding Your Funnybone<\/strong><\/p>\n

Before you can begin to use humor as a stress management tool, you need to understand some things about your sense of humor and your ability and willingness to smile, giggle, or laugh so hard it hurts. Everyone has a different sense of humor and unless you are attuned to yours, you will end up missing many opportunities to use your humor skills to deal with life\u2019s little unexpected miseries.<\/p>\n

A recent study reported that the average American five-year-old child laughs out loud around four hundred times a day, while the average adult laughs out loud only fifteen. Young children are truly hedonistic \u2013 when something is no longer fun, they stop doing it. We adults call that a short attention span.<\/p>\n

\"AReaching adulthood does require a degree of buckling down and getting serious. Let\u2019s face it \u2013 there are things we have to do whether we want to or not. But so many of us have lost the sheer capacity for fun, joy, and laughter that even when we have the opportunity, we miss it.<\/p>\n

Many adults face a debilitating disease that has never been medically diagnosed: humor impairment. Humor impairment is the inability to find humor even in situations that are funny to most other people. My personal term for this state is constipation, because if you can\u2019t release your emotions through laughter, you emotional and spiritual systems are \u201cbacked up\u201d.<\/p>\n

Your level of humor constipation is often a result of the environment in which you grew up. If laughter was always present in your family, your ability and willingness to laugh with others is probably great. On the other hand, if, like me, you grew up in a family where laughter was frowned upon, you will probably find it more difficult to express humor in front of others.<\/p>\n

But, as with any other behavior, you can change. I grew up in a family where expressing any type of emotion was seen as a sign of immaturity. As a result, I was a most serious child, preferring Edgar Allen Poe and Sylvia Plath to the daily comics. I married a man who believed that neither laughter nor tears were acceptable or desirable. Today, however, I make my living teaching laughter and comedy and performing as a stand-up comic. My background has truly taught me how bleak and unhealthy a life without humor can be. (By the way, I still love Edgar Allen Poe and Sylvia Plath, but now they rub shoulders on my bookshelves with books by Dave Barry and Rita Rudner.)<\/p>\n

Take this short quiz to determine how willing and able you are to laugh at life and its foibles.<\/p>\n

Your Laughter Profile<\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. During an average day, I laugh out loud, snicker or giggle:\n
      \n
    1. Once or not at all<\/li>\n
    2. Two or three times<\/li>\n
    3. At least once an hour<\/li>\n
    4. Constantly, I\u2019m under medication<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
    5. When I am alone and read, see, hear, or think something funny, I:\n
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      1. Smile to myself<\/li>\n
      2. Laugh out loud, but look around to see if anyone saw me<\/li>\n
      3. Laugh out loud and find someone with whom to share the funny thing<\/li>\n
      4. Take a cold shower<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
      5. In the past year, I can remember:\n
          \n
        1. At least one time I spent at least a whole minute laughing<\/li>\n
        2. At least two to five times I spent at least a whole minute laughing<\/li>\n
        3. More than five times I spent at least a whole minute laughing<\/li>\n
        4. I can\u2019t remember \u2013 what was the question?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
        5. When I\u2019m around other people, they laugh and joke:\n
            \n
          1. Never<\/li>\n
          2. Sometimes<\/li>\n
          3. Often<\/li>\n
          4. I never hang around other people, they might laugh at me!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
          5. When faced with daily crisis (the dog peed on the rug, I missed the project deadline again, my daughter needs brownies for school NOW!) I respond with a laugh:\n
              \n
            1. Never<\/li>\n
            2. Sometimes<\/li>\n
            3. Often<\/li>\n
            4. Only if it\u2019s someone else\u2019s rug, deadline, or child<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
            5. I do things intentionally to make myself laugh:\n
                \n
              1. Never<\/li>\n
              2. Sometimes<\/li>\n
              3. Often<\/li>\n
              4. That might hurt!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
              5. The people I spend most of my time with:\n
                  \n
                1. Leave me feeling drained and depressed<\/li>\n
                2. Don\u2019t really affect my attitude<\/li>\n
                3. Make me laugh a lot<\/li>\n
                4. Usually steal my lunch money<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
                5. I can name:\n
                    \n
                  1. One thing that almost always makes me laugh<\/li>\n
                  2. Two things that almost always make me laugh<\/li>\n
                  3. At least three things that almost always makes me laugh<\/li>\n
                  4. My closest relatives<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
                  5. I laugh at myself:\n
                      \n
                    1. Never<\/li>\n
                    2. Sometimes<\/li>\n
                    3. Often<\/li>\n
                    4. Only when I\u2019m not in the room<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
                    5. I do silly things on purpose (wear strange buttons, make funny noises, and do things to see how others will respond):\n
                        \n
                      1. Never<\/li>\n
                      2. Sometimes<\/li>\n
                      3. Often<\/li>\n
                      4. No one ever notices<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
                      5. When I hear people laughing at work, the first thing I think is:\n
                          \n
                        1. I wish I could get paid to goof off<\/li>\n
                        2. I wish I knew what the joke is<\/li>\n
                        3. How wonderful that they\u2019re having a good time, I think I\u2019ll join them<\/li>\n
                        4. That it\u2019s Saturday and I shouldn\u2019t even be here<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                          How to score your laughter profile<\/strong><\/p>\n

                          Give yourself the following points for each letter: a=0 b=1 c=2 d=3. Then add them up to obtain your total score.<\/p>\n

                          If your score is less than 5, you are suffering from humor malnutrition. Someone probably told you \u201cGrow up, get serious!\u201d and you did. In order for you to find the humor in daily events, you will have to start slowly \u2013 first by convincing yourself that humor is an acceptable emotion and one that is healthy when used regularly.<\/p>\n

                          If your score is from 6 to 15, you occasionally have a good laugh, but your life lacks humor regularity. Remember, laughter is like exercise \u2013 you have to do it regularly to get the full benefit. Use it or lose it! You\u2019re good at expressing humor when you find things funny, but your goal now is to try to find humor in those things that usually make you angry, annoyed, or irritated.<\/p>\n

                          If your score is from 16 to 20, you are humorously fit! Not only do you approach life with the right amount of humor and benefit from it, you also probably make other people\u2019s lives more enjoyable. You should become a friend and role model for people around you who need the healing power of humor yet who don\u2019t seem to be able to use it in their lives.<\/p>\n

                          If your score is from 21 to 33, you\u2019re downright silly, aren\u2019t you? Don\u2019t stifle those childish instincts! Sure they told you in school that the class clown would never go anywhere in life. But they were wrong! Look at Chris Rock! He\u2019s taking it to the bank.<\/p>\n

                          Click here for a printable version.<\/a><\/p>\n

                          Your Humor Compass: Where do you find the funny in life?<\/strong><\/p>\n

                          Now that you have a better idea of your ability and willingness to use humor on a daily basis, it is important to understand the kinds of things that you find funny. After all, just as our taste in food or art varies, so does our taste in what is and is not funny to us.<\/p>\n

                          An important note here: You do not necessarily have to laugh out loud to find something funny. One of my best friends and I went to a movie together a few years ago. I laughed so hard I couldn\u2019t see through the tears. She sat there quietly. Afterwards, she said the movie was one of the funniest she had seen in years.<\/p>\n

                          Ask yourself the following questions to determine the types of humor that you will be able to use to most effectively manage your stress.<\/p>\n